i rotate them offeten and always check teh air pressure onle about 15k on the tires

i was lookin at the terra flex drag link bar and a new track bar from them

 

I noticed the 4.5" lift, but there's no mention of a adjustable trackbar or adjustable lower control arms. Did your kit come with these? What is your caster currently set to?

 

i dont know what the caster is set to. but the kit came with lower control arm there just not adjustable. how would i check caster

and the feelin i have is more of a wandering slight play in the wheel

 

Yes and yes. It is great!! It also lowers the upper mount for the track bar helping keep the suspension geometry correct and it adds a stout brace between the two main rails fo the stock frame

 

okay i seen that one you have to weld in correct

 

This write up from Eddie should help you check your caster. The problem you're describing sounds like your caster might be off just enough to cause the issues you mentioned. I have a 4" RC lift and before I went with adjustable lower control arms, I had much of the same issues - now, with adjustable lower control arms, we set the caster to +6° and I've been running without a steering stabilizer now for about a month and have absolutely no wandering or bump steer. Just something to look at.