I know you want pics of 4drs, but here is my 2dr with 2.5" coil lift and BFG 35's.
I have 3.73 gears and it I can live with it so I would think 4.10s would be okay.
I think you will probably get some rubbing at full flex but if you are even considering 35's
go ahead and get them or you will regret it.

 

Teraflex 2.5 coil and 315/70/17 (35") Procomp Xtreme M/T

 

That last pic is awesome....looks like your son is driving the JK, and just stopped for the photo....

 

Here's the 2.5" coil lift with 33's. I think it's a good combo. With the Rubi 4.10 gears you'll be fine... no noticeable drop in power.

Since it looks like you're getting the TeraFlex shocks with the kit you may want to follow this recent thread I posted on the rear coil issue due to too much travel. TeraFlex is looking at this issue internally but have already started shipping rear coil spacers with a spring guide to keep the coil in place under full extension. If you don't want to install that rear spacer from the kit, then you should get shocks other than the Teraflex 9550's which are designed for lifts from 2.5"-4" and extend more than shocks from competitors 2"-2.5" kits. https://www.jk-forum.com/forums/modified-jk-tech-2/rear-spring-shifted-out-place-common-66521/

 

Well my tires are technically closer to 34", but here yah go:

 

RedRock definitely go with 35s on that Rubi, you'll be pleased and it's a big jump from the stock 32's Vs. a mere 1/2" installed height difference with 33's.

That said 33's indeed look great on JKs, just like the extra 1.5" installed height clearance gain with 35s

 

You might want to try eather 1/2 inch spacers or Unlimited rubicon springs.

35's and 4:10's work ok but putting in 5:13's is AWSOME.

 

285/75-16's with the TF 2.5" coil lift...

I have been waiting for 35's since I put on the 33's!

 

Going by the pics and the comments and what i want, I think I'm gonna go with the 35's. The only thing now is what to do about the lift? From what I am noticing with research is the guys with the TF 2.5" coil lift with a winch and bumber don't have a noticeable amount of droop in the front, but the guys with the TF 2.5" spacers do... Is this an accurate observation? Is the TF coil lift stiff enough to supprt the extra weight? Or do I need to go with the OME HD springs? And if so what is the best way to go about it? Buy the TF kit and OME springs? Or???

 

You are correct, the BB will not correct a droop (rake). I don't know about all coil lifts but the Teraflex will correct it. I have the shrockworks mid width and winch on the front and it still leveled mine out well as you can tell by my pictures above. I know the OME is a great kit but I am very happy with my teraflex kit.