what is the right way to disconnect the stock sway bar. is it even recommended?

 

It will be a much smoother ride off road if you disconnect. The easiest way would be to get a set of quick discos from like TF or JKS. If do not want to go that route just undo the bolt that connects the sway bar link to the axle and rotate the sway bar link up and zip tie it to the sway bar. Also rotate sway bar up to level with the frame to be out of the way.

 

If I remember right it takes 2 18mm wrenches. Disconnect Both of them. You can leave the tops connected to the bar but I would zip tie them to the bar and put the bolts and nuts in the cubby in the trunk. I also leave the sway bar parallel to the ground. I've seen some bungee cord it to the frame but mine doesn't move and i haven't found a bungee that I can get to fit.(really haven't lookled)

quick disconnects are nice but I didn't get mine till after I lifted my Jeep.

 

There are some really cool budget quick discos that people on this board have made, from just a few parts from Home Depot. If you search quick disconnects you could probably find them. If I remember correctly, you can make something quick and easy for just a few bucks.