What connectors do I need? The wiring seems fine, it's just the 4 pin relay by itself that pops off the female connector with the 4 wires attached to it.

 

thought you had a sealed relay - with just wires sticking out.

 

Ahh yea, this should be a super easy fix if that's the issue. I'll report back tomorrow. Thanks for all the help so far!

 

Glad you're making progress! You'll have this solved in no time...

 

To my dismay I replaced the relay and still no luck :(

Should I be getting 12v at the relay on the red wire or any other besides the yellow?

 

The red wire should be coming from the + battery terminal, so yes it should be 12 volts.

Here is a description of the Hella wiring...

Lights:
Blue wires to ground on frame
Black wire to relay

Relay:
Red wire to battery + terminal
Black wire to lights
Blue wire to ground on frame
Yellow wire to switch

Switch:
Blue wire to ground on frame
Yellow wire to relay
Green wire to a 12v source. (I connected to the fuse box using a fuse tap.)

 

It's a miracle. Finally got it working. Turned out the super cheap fuse connector it comes with somehow went bad, so I cut it out, popped in a new one with a 15 amp fuse and it works. What a pain!

At least it's working now! Thanks for all the help.

 

glad to see you got it . figuring things out by remote is frustrating on this end as well